Monday, June 20, 2022

Plentiful Spring

Even with the weather stubbornly staying unusually cold and extremely rainy for this last stretch of spring, it hasn't stopped the Mather crew from celebrating milestones and experiencing plenty of firsts and fun.

First up is Lily who is now a phone owning 13 year old and will start her final year of middle school this fall.  She spends her time focused on theater,  fashion, and doing well in school.  She spends some time on the tennis court and the softball field but not as much as before.  We're excited for her and her newfound passion of performing and the people and experiences it will bring.

Lily at a day old with her proud parents

Lily at 13 with her even prouder parents

Lily's panto theater crew came to support her performance as Louisa in the Sound of Music at Lincoln High School.

Even Aunt Lolo flew out to support her. Aunt of the year 13 years running.

Elise is busy with karate, Girl Scouts, and piano.  She is now a 5th grader and you'll still often catch her in a robe with a chai tea and an audio book playing.  Here we are with Elise after her first piano recital.



Paul is all about baseball, tennis, and mountain biking these days.  He's also into the music group AJR. We kicked off our family trip to Whistler with a stop in Seattle to take him to their concert.  Witnessing my kids experience new things in such a mind blowing positive way brings me so much joy.
  

We escaped to Whistler for a few days for mountain biking and exploring.  The boys had a blast experiencing so many of the 70 downhill trails Whistler Bike Park offers.  They love to do jumps and tricks and ride fast.  Lily, Elise, and I just can't keep up.  

 


Nate got a little dirty

Girls and I hiked to this cool train wreck in the middle of the forest - it's been there since the 50's.  


The robins returned to our front porch for two rounds of eggs hatching over the course of a couple months.  We named them Lenny and Larry and we like to believe they know our voices because they don't fly away as much anymore when we come or go out our front door.  

Paul surprised us all with doing a solo dance act at the school talent show.  He did the Napoleon Dynamite dance and rocked it.  I'm still stunned that he did it given how shy he can be.

I'll finish this post with a tribute to Nate and my Dad with it just being Father's Day.  

Nate continues to be just as hands on and involved as the early days, if not more so.  I sometimes think I need to be Nate's PR agent to our own kids because he is so humble.  I don't think they realize just how talented he is as an artist, drummer, singing harmony and being naturally musically inclined, and being athletically blessed in any sport he wants to do. His intelligence and quick wit is in some ways the glue for our family.  It's not easy being both the level headed logical thinker and be silly and fun loving to all of us yet he goes for it.  Parenting sure is a wild ride.


I love the look on Opa's face in this picture with his Portland grandkids.  Opa exemplifies what it means to be at peace, comfortable in his own skin, and strong in his convictions.  My sarcasm and naughty humor definitely comes from him...as does my stubbornness.  Happy Father's Day Dad.  Love you.



Sunday, May 1, 2022

Elise's 3rd Macrodactyly Surgery - longer than expected recovery

 It's been 4 months since Elise's 3rd surgery for macrodactyly; 4 months is how long it took for Elise to fully recover from surgery.  We got our happy ending but not going to sugarcoat it, recovery was hard. What is our happy ending?  Elise has more footwear options, no new foot pain, and shouldn't need another surgery for quite a while.

It had been 5 years since her last surgery in Boston when she was 5 years old.   She was a willing patient at that point, but not really involved in the discussions or decision making.  This time was different - she was very much in the loop on the discussion about options and timing.  The location was different as well, as one of Dr. Kasser's understudies from Boston, Dr. Katie Fuchs, moved to Portland shortly after Elise's last surgery - this has been huge for us!  The decisions about what should be done and when to operate weren't cut and dry, and Elise weighed in with what she thought, and it was up to her to make the decision to proceed.

The main goals of this operation were to make any future surgeries straightforward and to give her more footwear options.  

1) Stop the growth of the long bone in her foot for her big toe by destroying the growth plate (again).  The main concern was that this bone was still growing after two attempts to destroy the growth plate, and continued growth could alter the mechanics of her foot and limit or complicate future options.  

2) Debulking the tissue on the bottom of her foot (fancy word for remove)

3) Adjust the angle of her big toe bone (the same one getting its growth plate destroyed).  The bone had been growing at a more upward angle than the others in her foot and was creating additional height which was compounding the challenges to fit in shoes.  So a vertical pie wedge was taken out of the bone, which was reset with screws to heal at a new lower angle.

The operation itself was smooth. Portland Shriners was great. It felt small and friendly, the staff was all-around great.  The post-op report from Dr. Katie was all good - she was really happy with the result in the OR and showed us a couple of pictures after everything was sewn up which looked like a significantly thinner foot.  1/2 day surgery and one night in the hospital was it.  

The first few days at home were as expected compared to her other 2 surgeries.  It takes a little time to  dial in medications and routines (stay ahead of the pain train), with some bad pain during one or two of the nights.  We timed the surgery to happen a few days before Elise's winter break from school, so she had two weeks to heal before heading back to school.  Elise enjoyed Christmas at home and did lots of potholder making (thanks Annie & fam!) and coloring (thanks Schwerds!).

Surgery/Recovery Timeline

12/16/2021: Surgery

12/17 - End of January: In a cast - no weight bearing - wheelchair and crutches (important to elevate)

February:  Boot, light weight bearing, crutches, foot infection, weekly dressing changes at Dr office - Coban wrap.  

March: daily foot soak - daily dressing changes - Coban wrap - no more boot.

April - Wound healed enough to go swimming again by mid April.  No more Coban wrap needed.  Shoe shopping success. Yay.

Lessons learned 

1) Work with the school staff earlier than you think (at least 6 weeks if possible) with preparing for wheelchair access....especially at a non-ADA school (aka REALLY old buildings).  Your child has a right to go to school; don't be influenced by the inconveniences it causes staff.  

2) Talk more with the surgeon about what to expect for recovery timeline.  We were really surprised and concerned to see what looked like a lot of dead tissue along the bottom of her foot after her cast and dressing was removed for the first time.  It looked like her foot was both mauled by dogs and then scorched in a fire.  Dr. Katie was not too concerned with how things looked - saying that new skin was essentially growing underneath the bad-looking tissue which would eventually slough off.  This was the moment we questioned our decision.  It's normal.  

3) Buy the same brand of Coban wrap you get at the Dr. office.  Don't try to save money with cheaper alternatives.  Doesn't work nearly as well.

4) The large incision wound along the inside of her foot healed like a zipper, slowly closing from the back of the foot moving forward.  It's fine to pick out the gunk in the wound regularly.

5) Infection means there are signs of pus at the wound and 10 days of antibiotics are required.  No side effects experienced.

6) The debulking has caused numbness at the bottom of her foot which we are told will improve over time.  Need to be a bit careful because she won't feel it as much if she steps on glass for example.  

It's been quite a journey.  I think we just didn't spend enough time with our surgeon talking about recovery expectations - or the range of possibilities.  Not that we would have made a different decision, just that we would have been better mentally prepared.  In the end, Elise's foot thickness is definitely improved and she has more options for footwear.  Hopefully the numbness in her forefoot continues to slowly improve, and we don't have to think about another surgery for a while.  

Before Surgery


After Surgery (close to all healed)


Before Surgery

After surgery



Elise's cast.  On her way to school, and yes she's wearing her bathrobe.


We will spare you the raw pictures of her foot but here's Elise doing a regular soak to help the wound heal.

We are very good at dressing changes...gauze, underwrap, Coban wrap (comes in lots of bright colors). Here is Nate about to finish the underwrap before the Coban outer layer gets put on.  

Xray of Elise's new foot.  You'll notice the 2 little screws which held her bone in place to heal after the pie wedge was cut out.


The biggest surprise was discovering that Elise can fit in Doc Martens now


She really missed swimming



Sunday, April 17, 2022

Spring Things

 It has been 4 months since Elise's 3rd surgery to address the macrodactyly on her foot.  This past week marks what feels like the end of recovery.  Her wound has healed enough to allow for swimming and we are going to go shoe shopping when my sister comes to town this upcoming weekend to get an idea if any new brands and styles may work for her.  Hopefully we can expand from her extra wide New Balance collection.  She started up Karate again in the last couple of weeks as well.  I'm not quite ready to do a post on the whole experience and show photos just yet, still processing.  It was not an easy recovery, both physically and mentally impacting all of us more than we expected.  

We still have our parenting challenges, whether it's addictions to screen and sugar, lying, being mean to each other, age inappropriate emotional reactions, and having enough energy at the end of the day to parent effectively.  How to handle Lily's incessant asking for a phone for her upcoming 13th Birthday is also on our mind a lot these days.  After over a year of both of us working full time, we haven't found a balance we're all happy with. We'll keep trying and focus on the laughs and lighthearted moments whenever we can.  

Notable highlights from the last couple of months are mostly centered around hosting dear friends in our home again and all in all, we loved having people in our home again.  Glad COVID rates have decreased quite a bit recently around us.  Otherwise, the notable mental relief of having finished my volunteer commitment in what was a trying experience, a girls trip to Alderwood Resort in Washington, and a fantastic Easter celebration with Oma and Opa round out the last 60 days. 

We have one more week with Oma and Opa before they leave us until the Fall.  Seeing Lily as Louisa Von Trapp in the Lincoln High School production of Sound of Music will be the last hoorah before they leave.  

Paul and Nate experienced a baseball lover's dream over Spring Break by traveling to the Arizona sun with his 10U team, getting plenty of autographs from his favorite Cubs, and even getting a foul ball.  They both came home super happy.  Paul has started wearing contacts now too, mostly for sports.

Paul warming up his swing in Arizona


Paul got a big treat - several Cubs starters signed his glove.  Patrick Wisdom was super nice and then hit a homer in his first at bat - karma!


Our friend Knut surprising Oma and Opa all the way from Norway!


Paul in contacts


We introduced the kids to mom and dad's wedding reception restaurant as a way to celebrate the end of my volunteer commitment


Girls Trip to Alderwood.   Geocaching, Oysters, Smores, and downtime


Oma enjoying fried Oysters.  She doesn't like fresh oysters because they are too "shlappetybap"


Hosting my best friend Manju and her family from Florida.  SO.MUCH.FUN.

Manju, Abi, Shivan (13), Nala (12), and Maya (9)







Fun surprise evening out with Fluffy, our oldest and dearest Portland friend and his brother.


Finally hosting our dear Portland friends for dinner all together. Tacos and S'mores night.


Elise enjoying her first swim since surgery in December 2021.


Easter 2022 with Oma and Opa.  Solleier tradition time!


Vinegar, Olive Oil, Dijon Mustard, and Salt - voila

Happy Easter!  


Sunday, February 13, 2022

Pictures don't lie but they also kinda do


Every once in a while, the contrast between how I feel and the images my most recent pictures capture presents itself quite starkly.  The start of 2022 has felt overall really tough on a personal level. 

What weighed heavily on our minds were Elise's very rocky recovery from her 3rd macrodactyly surgery, my brother's complications from surgery, and my sister's lengthy illness.  Elise and Lily constantly fighting continues to drain me to a puddle of complete defeat.   The latest battle is Elise's constant screaming at Lily anytime she's practicing her singing behind her closed bedroom door.  It's simply proving too hard for Nate and me to find ways for our family to do much adventuring all together.  It's still easier if we divide and conquer.  

Omicron is on the decline, signs of Spring are popping up, and a little bit of new and very welcome availability on my schedule in just a few weeks helps make the near future look a little bit brighter.  Nate and I also have lots of ideas for travel and summer plans so it's about that time to start figuring it out.

Paul played in two tennis tournaments so far in 2022.  He likes to compete and it shows.  He's also all in with his baseball team practicing 3x a week.  Baseball tournaments start up in March.

Grandma and Grandpa visited from Michigan. Arm wrestling and making jewelry a plenty 

Moxie does this regularly jumping on me and hanging out like I'm a pirate and Moxie is a parrot.   

Mathers now have glowing skin

Day trip to Astoria

Lily and Mom - Champions at the Parent/Child Club Tennis tourney

Dad played with Paul and even though they didn't win,  they had fun....after recovering from a couple close and tough losses.

Lily has been very much into redecorating her room.  Here it is during the day

Here is her room at night.  Paul and Elise jumped in on the action and decked out their rooms with cool LED lights too.

We took Elise away for a night getaway, just the 3 of us, to Silverton after a rough post op doctor's appointment. 

A bright light of the month was Lily and her best friend trying out at the local high school open auditions for a role as one of the Van Trapp children in the Sound of Music.  They both got Louisa and get to split the 8 shows between them.  Couldn't have worked out better.  Here they are in front of the newly built high school that's ready for students Fall 2022.

Paul being Paul. Still love our stairs that Nate did for me as a gift.  

Our Little Free Library and Fairy Garden continues to expand and get attention.  Newest addition to the Fairy Garden is a sushi house.

Ride to the zoo on a beautiful 60 degree Super Bowl Sunday.  One year ago today this was all snow ready for sledding.