Monday, September 5, 2022

Aloha, Jellyfish, Chickens, and School

We ended summer break by taking the kids to Maui for the first time.  It had been 13 years since Nate and I had been.  It was all about introducing the kids to new sights, foods, and adventures. We learned quite a bit about our kids.  Lily wins Gold for adventurous spirit and giving everything thrown at her a go.  Paul wins Gold for surviving a jelly fish sting on his butt.  Elise wins Gold for body surfing and playing in the waves. We didn't expect Paul and Elise to both be staunchly against snorkeling after getting freaked out by taking a peak under water with their goggles.  Paul said the fish look at him weird and one had a long tongue that freaked him out.  Also, I had forgotten how many chickens there are roaming freely everywhere in Maui.  I didn't expect Paul to be so fearful of these "rogue" chickens.  We live next door to three chickens in Portland but apparently Maui chickens look meaner.


We prefer staying in south Maui, this time in south Kihei.  We also prefer staying longer than a week.  It does make me curious how long we'd stay if we could stay however long we wanted.

Elise wearing her new Aloha shirt at sunset.  

Definitely wasn't expecting Lily joining me every morning at 545am for our morning walk in Wailea.  Didn't get Nicole time or podcast time but I did get good quality Lily time with insight into the ups and downs going on in her head - plenty of venting, insecurities, goals, dreams, and opinions.



Enjoyed sharing family cocktails and mocktails at the Grand Wailea. Elise just wanted a Dr Pepper.


Lucked out with good views and not too cold weather on Haleakala 


Maui turned Lily's dislike for fish around.  She really loved the fish tacos.


Paul getting to wear his cool Hawaiian shirt.  



Elise probably thinking about something sweet to eat.


First time eating shaved ice.  Two Thumbs up.


Elise loved either meditating and playing this game with the waves to see if the waves were strong enough to move her.  She definitely had the most sand in her bathing suit after a day at the beach.


Surfing success for all 3 kids.  Lily was the only one that went back out another day for a morning with Nate.  Nate and I both were really proud of them.  






Caught our twins having a twinning moment on the Twin Falls hike: https://youtu.be/BdtQOGDoLQg

We had just landed in Maui. Dropped off our suitcases and made our way right to the beach. This was Paul's first experience in warm Maui waters: https://youtube.com/shorts/uJrTqWC-cJE

Boogie Boarding sure is fun - https://youtu.be/EayweDK6ZYs


Back to reality a couple days after returning from paradise.  Lily's 1st day of 8th grade photo.  Yup, they do look alike.

Paul and Elise starting their last year at Chapman Elementary.  One more year being in the same class together.

End of first school week Eb and Bean treat


Lily joined me for some blackberry picking.  Loved seeing all the sunflowers too.  Plenty of baking over the long low key weekend.  

Kids are in school full time (no hybrid or remote learning being mentioned and masks are optional), Nate works from home full time, and I go into the office 2 days a week. 2nd COVID boosters look to become available this week.  For the kid's after school activities, Lily's Panto play practice will kick into high gear later this month and she says she'll join choir to add onto her occasional singing lessons. Elise will keep busy with karate, piano and Girl Scouts, while Paul will be focused on tennis for the next few months until baseball season starts up.  That will be how we fill our days for the next little bit if COVID and whatever else bigger than us and out of our control stay under "control." Immer Weiter.

Wednesday, August 17, 2022

Lost my toe during a magic trick

Before we sneak off to Maui to introduce the kids to the warm Hawaiian waters, wanted to capture what our summer has been like.  Uncle Eric's tough and scary rollercoaster health journey, (Great) Grandpa Wally's passing at age 96 and Lenny the Robin uniquely mark the season for us.  We didn't get out into nature as much, spend as many long afternoons and evenings outside exploring, or see as many friends as (pre-Covid) years past.  We had hits and misses with the camps, way more screen time than desired, and Nate and I continue to work a lot but luckily with proud personal successes.  Washington Park continues to provide an oasis of activity for us as does talking to neighbors as they walk by to enjoy our fairy garden, take a book from our library, or stop for a quick chat.  Most of our evenings have been relaxing.

I'll always remember how I felt when I took this quick video of 13 year old Lily and 10 year old Paul and Elise on July 4, 2022.  It felt like one of those moments when just the right song with lyrics speaking just to you starts playing unexpectedly at a much needed moment.  They are growing up and it's okay. 


Nate and I have tried to make it a summer to remember with making memories together and supporting their interests.  

Kid's first time seeing just what the human body can do when it comes to acrobatics.  Cirque de Soleil did not disappoint.


Paul's 10U team had a heckuva season.  They played about 60 games from April through July, won the Cal Ripken State Tournament and won a couple games at Regionals.  



Paul continues to be all about baseball, mountain biking, and tennis. Here he is at his annual Hood River Mountain Biking Camp.  What a treat to ride Post Canyon with such a small group and their own instructor.


Lemonade Stand on a particularly hot summer day.  We have had plenty of sizzling hot summer days in July and August.

Nate and Elise traveled to Michigan to join family for a few days to remember Wally Mitchell, Nate's last living grandparent who passed away at 96.  Nate talked to him around Fathers' Day and his mind was still sharp as a tack but his body was just plain worn out.  He was a regular reader of Mather Blather and we will all miss his friendly wit.

We were spoiled with 3 rounds of baby robins in the nest on our front porch.  We watched the baby robins' first flights, listened to them during feeding time, and watched and listened to Lenny and Larry bicker with worms in their mouth near the nest on a daily basis.  


Summer silly family pic after some spike ball.  

Took Lily on a solo trip to the Bay Area as an add on to my first work trip in over a decade.  Lily was a delight and an adventurous travel partner.  She even took her first flight alone going home.  

Lily loved San Fran.  Here she is at Lombard Street.


Overnight Tennis Camp at OSU.  Paul's first overnight camp.


7th Annual Irving Street Block Party.  The pool in the street will always crack me up.  Love our neighbors for making that a reality.

We hosted dear friends from Munich for a recent weekend.  Introduced them to s'mores and the Gorge.  Fun watching how great all my kids were with my friend's little ones.  Elise was asked by the 7 year old where her toe went.  Without skipping a beat, Elise said "I lost it during a magic trick."  



Elise is at Girl Scout Camp this week in Florence, Oregon.  It has been the most noticeable with Elise in coming into her own this summer.  Her comedic timing, quick wit, and independence especially sticks out. 

 

Monday, June 20, 2022

Plentiful Spring

Even with the weather stubbornly staying unusually cold and extremely rainy for this last stretch of spring, it hasn't stopped the Mather crew from celebrating milestones and experiencing plenty of firsts and fun.

First up is Lily who is now a phone owning 13 year old and will start her final year of middle school this fall.  She spends her time focused on theater,  fashion, and doing well in school.  She spends some time on the tennis court and the softball field but not as much as before.  We're excited for her and her newfound passion of performing and the people and experiences it will bring.

Lily at a day old with her proud parents

Lily at 13 with her even prouder parents

Lily's panto theater crew came to support her performance as Louisa in the Sound of Music at Lincoln High School.

Even Aunt Lolo flew out to support her. Aunt of the year 13 years running.

Elise is busy with karate, Girl Scouts, and piano.  She is now a 5th grader and you'll still often catch her in a robe with a chai tea and an audio book playing.  Here we are with Elise after her first piano recital.



Paul is all about baseball, tennis, and mountain biking these days.  He's also into the music group AJR. We kicked off our family trip to Whistler with a stop in Seattle to take him to their concert.  Witnessing my kids experience new things in such a mind blowing positive way brings me so much joy.
  

We escaped to Whistler for a few days for mountain biking and exploring.  The boys had a blast experiencing so many of the 70 downhill trails Whistler Bike Park offers.  They love to do jumps and tricks and ride fast.  Lily, Elise, and I just can't keep up.  

 


Nate got a little dirty

Girls and I hiked to this cool train wreck in the middle of the forest - it's been there since the 50's.  


The robins returned to our front porch for two rounds of eggs hatching over the course of a couple months.  We named them Lenny and Larry and we like to believe they know our voices because they don't fly away as much anymore when we come or go out our front door.  

Paul surprised us all with doing a solo dance act at the school talent show.  He did the Napoleon Dynamite dance and rocked it.  I'm still stunned that he did it given how shy he can be.

I'll finish this post with a tribute to Nate and my Dad with it just being Father's Day.  

Nate continues to be just as hands on and involved as the early days, if not more so.  I sometimes think I need to be Nate's PR agent to our own kids because he is so humble.  I don't think they realize just how talented he is as an artist, drummer, singing harmony and being naturally musically inclined, and being athletically blessed in any sport he wants to do. His intelligence and quick wit is in some ways the glue for our family.  It's not easy being both the level headed logical thinker and be silly and fun loving to all of us yet he goes for it.  Parenting sure is a wild ride.


I love the look on Opa's face in this picture with his Portland grandkids.  Opa exemplifies what it means to be at peace, comfortable in his own skin, and strong in his convictions.  My sarcasm and naughty humor definitely comes from him...as does my stubbornness.  Happy Father's Day Dad.  Love you.



Sunday, May 1, 2022

Elise's 3rd Macrodactyly Surgery - longer than expected recovery

 It's been 4 months since Elise's 3rd surgery for macrodactyly; 4 months is how long it took for Elise to fully recover from surgery.  We got our happy ending but not going to sugarcoat it, recovery was hard. What is our happy ending?  Elise has more footwear options, no new foot pain, and shouldn't need another surgery for quite a while.

It had been 5 years since her last surgery in Boston when she was 5 years old.   She was a willing patient at that point, but not really involved in the discussions or decision making.  This time was different - she was very much in the loop on the discussion about options and timing.  The location was different as well, as one of Dr. Kasser's understudies from Boston, Dr. Katie Fuchs, moved to Portland shortly after Elise's last surgery - this has been huge for us!  The decisions about what should be done and when to operate weren't cut and dry, and Elise weighed in with what she thought, and it was up to her to make the decision to proceed.

The main goals of this operation were to make any future surgeries straightforward and to give her more footwear options.  

1) Stop the growth of the long bone in her foot for her big toe by destroying the growth plate (again).  The main concern was that this bone was still growing after two attempts to destroy the growth plate, and continued growth could alter the mechanics of her foot and limit or complicate future options.  

2) Debulking the tissue on the bottom of her foot (fancy word for remove)

3) Adjust the angle of her big toe bone (the same one getting its growth plate destroyed).  The bone had been growing at a more upward angle than the others in her foot and was creating additional height which was compounding the challenges to fit in shoes.  So a vertical pie wedge was taken out of the bone, which was reset with screws to heal at a new lower angle.

The operation itself was smooth. Portland Shriners was great. It felt small and friendly, the staff was all-around great.  The post-op report from Dr. Katie was all good - she was really happy with the result in the OR and showed us a couple of pictures after everything was sewn up which looked like a significantly thinner foot.  1/2 day surgery and one night in the hospital was it.  

The first few days at home were as expected compared to her other 2 surgeries.  It takes a little time to  dial in medications and routines (stay ahead of the pain train), with some bad pain during one or two of the nights.  We timed the surgery to happen a few days before Elise's winter break from school, so she had two weeks to heal before heading back to school.  Elise enjoyed Christmas at home and did lots of potholder making (thanks Annie & fam!) and coloring (thanks Schwerds!).

Surgery/Recovery Timeline

12/16/2021: Surgery

12/17 - End of January: In a cast - no weight bearing - wheelchair and crutches (important to elevate)

February:  Boot, light weight bearing, crutches, foot infection, weekly dressing changes at Dr office - Coban wrap.  

March: daily foot soak - daily dressing changes - Coban wrap - no more boot.

April - Wound healed enough to go swimming again by mid April.  No more Coban wrap needed.  Shoe shopping success. Yay.

Lessons learned 

1) Work with the school staff earlier than you think (at least 6 weeks if possible) with preparing for wheelchair access....especially at a non-ADA school (aka REALLY old buildings).  Your child has a right to go to school; don't be influenced by the inconveniences it causes staff.  

2) Talk more with the surgeon about what to expect for recovery timeline.  We were really surprised and concerned to see what looked like a lot of dead tissue along the bottom of her foot after her cast and dressing was removed for the first time.  It looked like her foot was both mauled by dogs and then scorched in a fire.  Dr. Katie was not too concerned with how things looked - saying that new skin was essentially growing underneath the bad-looking tissue which would eventually slough off.  This was the moment we questioned our decision.  It's normal.  

3) Buy the same brand of Coban wrap you get at the Dr. office.  Don't try to save money with cheaper alternatives.  Doesn't work nearly as well.

4) The large incision wound along the inside of her foot healed like a zipper, slowly closing from the back of the foot moving forward.  It's fine to pick out the gunk in the wound regularly.

5) Infection means there are signs of pus at the wound and 10 days of antibiotics are required.  No side effects experienced.

6) The debulking has caused numbness at the bottom of her foot which we are told will improve over time.  Need to be a bit careful because she won't feel it as much if she steps on glass for example.  

It's been quite a journey.  I think we just didn't spend enough time with our surgeon talking about recovery expectations - or the range of possibilities.  Not that we would have made a different decision, just that we would have been better mentally prepared.  In the end, Elise's foot thickness is definitely improved and she has more options for footwear.  Hopefully the numbness in her forefoot continues to slowly improve, and we don't have to think about another surgery for a while.  

Before Surgery


After Surgery (close to all healed)


Before Surgery

After surgery



Elise's cast.  On her way to school, and yes she's wearing her bathrobe.


We will spare you the raw pictures of her foot but here's Elise doing a regular soak to help the wound heal.

We are very good at dressing changes...gauze, underwrap, Coban wrap (comes in lots of bright colors). Here is Nate about to finish the underwrap before the Coban outer layer gets put on.  

Xray of Elise's new foot.  You'll notice the 2 little screws which held her bone in place to heal after the pie wedge was cut out.


The biggest surprise was discovering that Elise can fit in Doc Martens now


She really missed swimming