Sunday, May 1, 2022

Elise's 3rd Macrodactyly Surgery - longer than expected recovery

 It's been 4 months since Elise's 3rd surgery for macrodactyly; 4 months is how long it took for Elise to fully recover from surgery.  We got our happy ending but not going to sugarcoat it, recovery was hard. What is our happy ending?  Elise has more footwear options, no new foot pain, and shouldn't need another surgery for quite a while.

It had been 5 years since her last surgery in Boston when she was 5 years old.   She was a willing patient at that point, but not really involved in the discussions or decision making.  This time was different - she was very much in the loop on the discussion about options and timing.  The location was different as well, as one of Dr. Kasser's understudies from Boston, Dr. Katie Fuchs, moved to Portland shortly after Elise's last surgery - this has been huge for us!  The decisions about what should be done and when to operate weren't cut and dry, and Elise weighed in with what she thought, and it was up to her to make the decision to proceed.

The main goals of this operation were to make any future surgeries straightforward and to give her more footwear options.  

1) Stop the growth of the long bone in her foot for her big toe by destroying the growth plate (again).  The main concern was that this bone was still growing after two attempts to destroy the growth plate, and continued growth could alter the mechanics of her foot and limit or complicate future options.  

2) Debulking the tissue on the bottom of her foot (fancy word for remove)

3) Adjust the angle of her big toe bone (the same one getting its growth plate destroyed).  The bone had been growing at a more upward angle than the others in her foot and was creating additional height which was compounding the challenges to fit in shoes.  So a vertical pie wedge was taken out of the bone, which was reset with screws to heal at a new lower angle.

The operation itself was smooth. Portland Shriners was great. It felt small and friendly, the staff was all-around great.  The post-op report from Dr. Katie was all good - she was really happy with the result in the OR and showed us a couple of pictures after everything was sewn up which looked like a significantly thinner foot.  1/2 day surgery and one night in the hospital was it.  

The first few days at home were as expected compared to her other 2 surgeries.  It takes a little time to  dial in medications and routines (stay ahead of the pain train), with some bad pain during one or two of the nights.  We timed the surgery to happen a few days before Elise's winter break from school, so she had two weeks to heal before heading back to school.  Elise enjoyed Christmas at home and did lots of potholder making (thanks Annie & fam!) and coloring (thanks Schwerds!).

Surgery/Recovery Timeline

12/16/2021: Surgery

12/17 - End of January: In a cast - no weight bearing - wheelchair and crutches (important to elevate)

February:  Boot, light weight bearing, crutches, foot infection, weekly dressing changes at Dr office - Coban wrap.  

March: daily foot soak - daily dressing changes - Coban wrap - no more boot.

April - Wound healed enough to go swimming again by mid April.  No more Coban wrap needed.  Shoe shopping success. Yay.

Lessons learned 

1) Work with the school staff earlier than you think (at least 6 weeks if possible) with preparing for wheelchair access....especially at a non-ADA school (aka REALLY old buildings).  Your child has a right to go to school; don't be influenced by the inconveniences it causes staff.  

2) Talk more with the surgeon about what to expect for recovery timeline.  We were really surprised and concerned to see what looked like a lot of dead tissue along the bottom of her foot after her cast and dressing was removed for the first time.  It looked like her foot was both mauled by dogs and then scorched in a fire.  Dr. Katie was not too concerned with how things looked - saying that new skin was essentially growing underneath the bad-looking tissue which would eventually slough off.  This was the moment we questioned our decision.  It's normal.  

3) Buy the same brand of Coban wrap you get at the Dr. office.  Don't try to save money with cheaper alternatives.  Doesn't work nearly as well.

4) The large incision wound along the inside of her foot healed like a zipper, slowly closing from the back of the foot moving forward.  It's fine to pick out the gunk in the wound regularly.

5) Infection means there are signs of pus at the wound and 10 days of antibiotics are required.  No side effects experienced.

6) The debulking has caused numbness at the bottom of her foot which we are told will improve over time.  Need to be a bit careful because she won't feel it as much if she steps on glass for example.  

It's been quite a journey.  I think we just didn't spend enough time with our surgeon talking about recovery expectations - or the range of possibilities.  Not that we would have made a different decision, just that we would have been better mentally prepared.  In the end, Elise's foot thickness is definitely improved and she has more options for footwear.  Hopefully the numbness in her forefoot continues to slowly improve, and we don't have to think about another surgery for a while.  

Before Surgery


After Surgery (close to all healed)


Before Surgery

After surgery



Elise's cast.  On her way to school, and yes she's wearing her bathrobe.


We will spare you the raw pictures of her foot but here's Elise doing a regular soak to help the wound heal.

We are very good at dressing changes...gauze, underwrap, Coban wrap (comes in lots of bright colors). Here is Nate about to finish the underwrap before the Coban outer layer gets put on.  

Xray of Elise's new foot.  You'll notice the 2 little screws which held her bone in place to heal after the pie wedge was cut out.


The biggest surprise was discovering that Elise can fit in Doc Martens now


She really missed swimming



Sunday, April 17, 2022

Spring Things

 It has been 4 months since Elise's 3rd surgery to address the macrodactyly on her foot.  This past week marks what feels like the end of recovery.  Her wound has healed enough to allow for swimming and we are going to go shoe shopping when my sister comes to town this upcoming weekend to get an idea if any new brands and styles may work for her.  Hopefully we can expand from her extra wide New Balance collection.  She started up Karate again in the last couple of weeks as well.  I'm not quite ready to do a post on the whole experience and show photos just yet, still processing.  It was not an easy recovery, both physically and mentally impacting all of us more than we expected.  

We still have our parenting challenges, whether it's addictions to screen and sugar, lying, being mean to each other, age inappropriate emotional reactions, and having enough energy at the end of the day to parent effectively.  How to handle Lily's incessant asking for a phone for her upcoming 13th Birthday is also on our mind a lot these days.  After over a year of both of us working full time, we haven't found a balance we're all happy with. We'll keep trying and focus on the laughs and lighthearted moments whenever we can.  

Notable highlights from the last couple of months are mostly centered around hosting dear friends in our home again and all in all, we loved having people in our home again.  Glad COVID rates have decreased quite a bit recently around us.  Otherwise, the notable mental relief of having finished my volunteer commitment in what was a trying experience, a girls trip to Alderwood Resort in Washington, and a fantastic Easter celebration with Oma and Opa round out the last 60 days. 

We have one more week with Oma and Opa before they leave us until the Fall.  Seeing Lily as Louisa Von Trapp in the Lincoln High School production of Sound of Music will be the last hoorah before they leave.  

Paul and Nate experienced a baseball lover's dream over Spring Break by traveling to the Arizona sun with his 10U team, getting plenty of autographs from his favorite Cubs, and even getting a foul ball.  They both came home super happy.  Paul has started wearing contacts now too, mostly for sports.

Paul warming up his swing in Arizona


Paul got a big treat - several Cubs starters signed his glove.  Patrick Wisdom was super nice and then hit a homer in his first at bat - karma!


Our friend Knut surprising Oma and Opa all the way from Norway!


Paul in contacts


We introduced the kids to mom and dad's wedding reception restaurant as a way to celebrate the end of my volunteer commitment


Girls Trip to Alderwood.   Geocaching, Oysters, Smores, and downtime


Oma enjoying fried Oysters.  She doesn't like fresh oysters because they are too "shlappetybap"


Hosting my best friend Manju and her family from Florida.  SO.MUCH.FUN.

Manju, Abi, Shivan (13), Nala (12), and Maya (9)







Fun surprise evening out with Fluffy, our oldest and dearest Portland friend and his brother.


Finally hosting our dear Portland friends for dinner all together. Tacos and S'mores night.


Elise enjoying her first swim since surgery in December 2021.


Easter 2022 with Oma and Opa.  Solleier tradition time!


Vinegar, Olive Oil, Dijon Mustard, and Salt - voila

Happy Easter!  


Sunday, February 13, 2022

Pictures don't lie but they also kinda do


Every once in a while, the contrast between how I feel and the images my most recent pictures capture presents itself quite starkly.  The start of 2022 has felt overall really tough on a personal level. 

What weighed heavily on our minds were Elise's very rocky recovery from her 3rd macrodactyly surgery, my brother's complications from surgery, and my sister's lengthy illness.  Elise and Lily constantly fighting continues to drain me to a puddle of complete defeat.   The latest battle is Elise's constant screaming at Lily anytime she's practicing her singing behind her closed bedroom door.  It's simply proving too hard for Nate and me to find ways for our family to do much adventuring all together.  It's still easier if we divide and conquer.  

Omicron is on the decline, signs of Spring are popping up, and a little bit of new and very welcome availability on my schedule in just a few weeks helps make the near future look a little bit brighter.  Nate and I also have lots of ideas for travel and summer plans so it's about that time to start figuring it out.

Paul played in two tennis tournaments so far in 2022.  He likes to compete and it shows.  He's also all in with his baseball team practicing 3x a week.  Baseball tournaments start up in March.

Grandma and Grandpa visited from Michigan. Arm wrestling and making jewelry a plenty 

Moxie does this regularly jumping on me and hanging out like I'm a pirate and Moxie is a parrot.   

Mathers now have glowing skin

Day trip to Astoria

Lily and Mom - Champions at the Parent/Child Club Tennis tourney

Dad played with Paul and even though they didn't win,  they had fun....after recovering from a couple close and tough losses.

Lily has been very much into redecorating her room.  Here it is during the day

Here is her room at night.  Paul and Elise jumped in on the action and decked out their rooms with cool LED lights too.

We took Elise away for a night getaway, just the 3 of us, to Silverton after a rough post op doctor's appointment. 

A bright light of the month was Lily and her best friend trying out at the local high school open auditions for a role as one of the Van Trapp children in the Sound of Music.  They both got Louisa and get to split the 8 shows between them.  Couldn't have worked out better.  Here they are in front of the newly built high school that's ready for students Fall 2022.

Paul being Paul. Still love our stairs that Nate did for me as a gift.  

Our Little Free Library and Fairy Garden continues to expand and get attention.  Newest addition to the Fairy Garden is a sushi house.

Ride to the zoo on a beautiful 60 degree Super Bowl Sunday.  One year ago today this was all snow ready for sledding.


Friday, December 31, 2021

December 2021 - Nice and Slow

Looking back at 2021, the year felt more like an extended 2020.   Even with COVID vaccinations, a marvel of science, being one of the biggest stories of the year around the globe, I didn't expect so many to remain willingly unvaccinated and for there to be well over 2x the number of deaths since this time last year in the US. I didn't expect a new variant to wreak havoc around the globe this holiday season. I don't think I'm alone in assuming we thought we'd be comfortably gathering and traveling to/with friends and family with minimal COVID concerns and day to day impacts.  Every little COVID related decision we continue to make (and 2nd guess) on a daily basis remains draining and feels like a crapshoot at this point.  

In our own world, we continued to toggle back and forth between treasuring the simple moments and working through the tough moments. We had lots of good moments to celebrate.

For Lily, being in school and the return of some theater allowed her the chance to make some really special new connections and make new friends.  She fell in love with her first traditional sleep-away camp experience and is passionate about being on stage.  She still plays quite a bit of tennis in groups but it's starting to conflict with her other interests.  She would say the hardest part of the year was not having a phone like all her peers and dealing with her sister.

For Paul, playing tennis and baseball were his regular go-to's.  Paul is motivated to improve and it shows.  The opportunity to play competitive tennis is lacking in our area; it's mind blowing to me how difficult it is.  Baseball, on the other hand, is an impressively well oiled machine.  He made a competitive 10U baseball team and has a full schedule of training and tournaments set up through June.  He even gets to go to Arizona with his team over Spring Break.  His hardest challenges of 2021 were being social outside of school, not pissing off his Oma, and keeping calm and going with the flow in any situation not to his liking. 

For Elise, starting karate, going to girl scout camp, having regular playdates with her neighbor besties, listening to audio books, and playing piano were where she found the most joy on a regular basis.  Her biggest challenges of 2021 are still getting along with her sister, working through her anxieties, having to say goodbye to her neighbor bestie moving away, and now recovering from her 3rd foot surgery. 

For me, what brought me joy so much in 2020 went away in 2021 - much fewer  long podcast walks and walks with friends, early morning workouts/alone time, solo bike rides, reading books, and baking.  A back injury kept me on the sidelines for 2 months, a full time job kept me occupied, and a time consuming joy-sucking volunteer gig really challenged me this year.  I didn't do enough self care. My regular doses of joy were still found at the dinner table or on our mini adventures laughing with my family, watching my kids do what they're passionate about (except playing PS4 - no thanks), and on the tennis court.

For Nate, skiing with Paul and Lily, trail runs, mountain biking with Paul, playing more tennis, and going back to some live concerts again brought him joy.  Nate's biggest challenges of the year were finding things to do as a whole family with no complaints from the peanut gallery.  I know Nate would say also being challenged by keeping his cool when the kids are frustrating him.  It's so hard to believe with how calm and level headed he is.  

Music was played more in the car than in the house this year - hope that changes.  Below are our 2021 playlists and snapshots from our December.  I'm not going to wish for anything big to start off 2022.  I'm just going to let it happen like any other day. 

Elise after foot surgery at Shriners.  Will post just on Elise's surgery/recovery another time.


Super sweet of Elise's 4th grade class to make Get Well cards 

Lily did a nice job decorating Elise's temporary bedroom (lower level) as a welcome home surprise


Cookie decorating tradition. Notice the feet?
Zoom Christmas Eve singalong with family
Christmas Eve tradition with Oma and Opa - Steaks and Italienischer Salat

Love this picture of Oma getting Elise's handmade Christmas card

Oh how we love Christmas cookies


Kids setting up camp to catch Santa in the act Christmas Eve (they didn't catch him)

Obligatory Christmas morning picture before present opening
Christmas dinner at our place - plenty of ham and mashed potatoes
Lily surprised me with doing a Pittock Mansion hike with me. Score.

Nate's bday dinner - he wanted to make us all Jambalaya

Our 2021 playlists
Nicole 2021 - my favorite lyric of the year was
"Never be so kind, you forget to be clever. Never be so clever, you forget to be kind....Never be so polite, you forget your power.  Never wield such power, you forget to be polite."


Nate 2021 part 1
Nate 2021 part 2

Kids 2021